Thoughts on BDSM and writing

A BDSM scene is a thing talked about by all parties. I will ask what you want out of the scene. What you absolutely will not do(hard limits). What you may want to do but are afraid of (soft limits). What you do want.

I will state my intentions for the scene. We will agree on restraints if any. What toys are off the table. What the timetable will be. If marks are allowed. If pain is desired. Nothing is left to chance.
We will go over the safe words. We will make sure that we know where any medicine or other paraphernalia is. Asthma inhalers and such.

24/7 is different from a scene. 24/7 is what is depicted in my stories. It means a integration of normal life. And scene. One moment we’re paying bills and the next you are pushed up against a wall being eaten out, begging for permission to orgasm.

But it’s the same in the way that every facet is discussed beforehand. And after there is a discussion of what worked, what didn’t, what do we want more of. There is cuddling and holding. Treating of any hurts. Aftercare.

I view BDSM as being 100% present. In the moment! Seeing us both for who we are and our desires both.

Scene play is all about the physical and mental pleasure.

24/7 incorporates the emotional which makes the rest work.

I request comments. If you prefer, I demand them.

BDSM is as varied as the participants involved. To see it as all one thing would be a mistake.

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