Dating rules

I dislike the rule when dating to not talk about sexual stuff.  Why not cut out my tongue too? That rule precludes me from talking about half of what I write and wipes away my two longest relationships which started and were bound up in sex. I can’t talk about BDSM. For obvious reasons. I know there is a world of other things but sex is my touchstone. Talking about it makes me comfortable. Weird right? I guess we could talk about books? Or music, though not (redacted).  Those are things and I can talk about them. It’s just not natural for me to.  I know it is strange that the guy who is bored with casual sex wants to talk about sex, but not really. I mean how do you think I became bored with it?  I don’t know.  Maybe I’m just bad at small talk.  Talk serious with me.

5 thoughts on “Dating rules

  1. Jas March 14, 2016 / 7:31 pm

    I hateee small talk.. or i could bad at it too..hmm.. anyways i too like talking about sex or even things that can relate to sex (which can be mostly everything lol) i think you definitely should talk about sex stuff when dating.. how are you going to find things out. . I much rather know first before heading off to bed with someone plus its fun. Who made this rule up?!

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    • Pelgris March 14, 2016 / 7:35 pm

      I don’t know who came up with that, it’s one of those things I read all the time. But I think people don’t want to hear about it right out of the box. The ‘I’m more than a piece of meat’ argument. Of course, I’ll talk about sex then they hear my no casual sex guideline and they are confused.

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      • Jas March 14, 2016 / 7:49 pm

        ahh hmm lol. no I wouldn’t say the first day but definitely something to be discussed eventually. no casual sex.. not quite sure what that is lol

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        • Pelgris March 14, 2016 / 8:00 pm

          I think it doesn’t exist but basically I mean one night stands. I’m going to remember it forever, I want it to be more than pleasant.

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          • Jas March 14, 2016 / 8:16 pm

            ah it may, and gotcha. like that thought and can completely agree

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