I have never been great at not pushing. I always want one step more than I have. One step more than is warranted. One step more.
I can’t stop it on my own. If you tell me to stop. To slow down. To calm down. I will. I need to be told, verbally, written, whatever. Someone needs to say, “You’re doing it again.”
And I’ll say, “Oh, I hadn’t realized.”
Not that I won’t see it on my own, but only when it’s too late or almost too late.
So, that’s one of the ways that I’m an idiot.
I don’t like hearing people call themselves names like that. You might have recognized that you sometimes exhibit behavior that you don’t like, but YOU are not an idiot.
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I don’t like the results of the behavior. The behavior itself is what makes me a romantic. But if I push past boundaries, one’s not clearly defined, I must be reined in. I cannot see that I am causing harm, only that they are unhappy, maybe, and so I push harder, and harder trying to figure out what, just the parameters of the situation
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I don’t know… I think when there is a mutual desire to communicate and truly understand each other this isn’t a negative, but just a manifestation of the sortof pigheaded stickwithitness that is common in Dominants (and communicative submissives for that matter.)
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Sounds like you do know. Thank you.
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You’re most welcome. 🙂
Perspective…
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Yeah, it’s hard to see the storm when you are in the eye.
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I have yet to see this happen. And you’re NOT an idiot.
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You are not in a relationship with me
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No, but as a friend, you’ve never done anything. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Relationships can only thrive if there is open communication.
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Thank you for your words. I’ll try to keep them in mind.
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You’re welcome. 😊
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