I suppose it comes down to this. I am willing to play games, to see if a relationship with you will be worth it, but at the end of about a month I’m done and I want to know what we are doing. I’m ok with fun times and casual whatever. But I want to know that is what we are. And I will keep looking if that is all that you want. But the games stop. And if you decide that you just want to be good friends, brace yourself for a bit of culture shock. I don’t treat my friends, even my good friends, the way that I treat lovers and potential lovers. Not that I treat them badly, but they get less of me. Less of my time, less of my attention, just less. I’m perfectly willing to be friends with ex’s but I find that they don’t want that, not really. When they say they want friendship, they mean they want the same level of access as I give lovers, but without actually being with me. I don’t do that. It is unfair to the people who are with me. And before you think I am cheating on anyone, no, I don’t do that. I am not exclusive with anyone, their choice. I prefer inclusive polyamory. But I can do exclusive, just no one ever asks for that with me. Perhaps I should be a bit offended, or not, who can say?