The fallacy of the self, is that the only way to act, believe, worship, experience joy or pain, to fail or succeed, is the way that you yourself do these things. Inability to see the different paths, different journeys, to these ends is not good or bad. What it is, is simply human. We see the world through a myopic lense. One composed of our needs and desires. To transcend this we need to look at the other side, not just accept but experience it. The human mind is infinitely malleable. What we state we believe becomes what is. And using this tool we can find empathy for any state. But be warned, you must step lightly, for the use of this method can destroy the self that began the journey. And if you are lost, then that self becomes lost forever.